So I set off for my special places.. a few drawers and little boxes in our chest of drawers. I pondered a few items and finally I knew which was my most cherished item. There are lots of things I would be sad to lose, but this is the one I would be bereft if I lost...My Mum's engagement ring complete with a little brocade box in a heart shape which she always kept it in.
We were talking this morning about the tradition that you should spend three months salary on an engagement ring... yeah right! Somehow I think that should be filed away with the same box of things like not living together or having children before you are married..it just seems outdated for the 21st Century.
But way back in the 1940's it must have been such a big deal to get engaged and then plan the wedding and live together for the first time.
For Mum it meant leaving her Mum and her brother and sister (both older), leaving her Mum who had been suddenly widowed nine years earlier and moving down to the cove to live with dad .. and his Dad.. mmm, from what I hear maybe not the most special aspect of the deal! (My Grandad was a bit of a miserable old thing, didn't take very kindly to my Mum doing his washing and generally making life a bit more homely and comfortable, you know sometimes you just can't help some people!)
Mum & Dad married in 1946 and her wedding ring was 22carat but only had '22CT' stamped inside it twice, no Hallmark, apparently that was the way just after the war (?)
She believed you should never take it off and in 1955 she had to have it taken off to have an operation and the first thing she asked for when she came round was her ring (now thy tape them over I think..)
Once married the engagement ring was a special occasion item and Mum only wore it when she was going out.. in fact as a child I remember coming home and asking her where she had been as she was wearing her ring. After 23 years of marriage dad died and I think Mum wore her ring more, less working on the land and risk of losing it I suppose.
Then in 1973 when she remarried she gave me both the rings. I have worn the wedding ring ever since, so it has been on her or my finger every day since December 1946 and you know, it is still a perfect circle, never dented or bent even with the lives we have led. The engagement ring had become very thin on the underside so I only wore it on special occasions myself, usually to bring me luck in exams and I guess it did! It's kind of cute too because it is very very simple and really a reflection of the life and times of the post war years..
.. so there we are, my most precious and not much of a story but a nice memory.. I wonder where they will go next..!
(and you know, that Jewellers, EJ Hutchens in Penzance is still there in Causewayhead, our cousin Penny used to work there in 1970's and now it is called Spiegelhalters, but I reckon lots of it is just the same.)
I think it's a wonderfully full story. It has everything - love and loss and hope and all those things that make up life. It's perfect and I'm delighted that it's the one you chose to share with us today. Thank you.
ReplyDelete..and there's a little hint there that you might have one or two other treasures to share over the year too :)
A lovely story....I too have my mum's wedding ring.
ReplyDeleteRings are such personal things and it is lovely that both you and your mum have worn the same ones. I love the story behind them and the photographs. Thank you for sharing these sentiments.
ReplyDeleteI think that is a lovely story with great memories, thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteYour story tugs at my heart because I, too, have my mother's rings. I've worn her wedding band ever since she died. I feel closer to her that way. Thanks so much for your story.
ReplyDeleteI am envious because my mother gave her rings to my daughter-in-law as "she would keep them safe" As those rings included my grandmother's engagement ring.... Well, let's just say I am glad my now ex D-i-L gave me a granddaughter and she will inherit the rings (I have been promised). Lovely story, thank you
ReplyDeleteThat is a beautiful story!
ReplyDeleteSuch a lovely story - thank you for sharing. J xx
ReplyDeleteI love that little box that it came in - so cute!
ReplyDeleteI loved your story xxx
ReplyDeleteI never take my engagement ring off either 24/7 I wear it!!
It is the perfect story full of love and memories. Thank you for sharing it here.
ReplyDeleteThat's such a beautiful story, love it. My Dad and mum never removed their wedding ring in 64 years (to be in 12 days). My mum's fingers went a bit bigger but she refused to remove the ring so they had to have it cut so her finger could breath. She now wears an open wedding ring, but as she says, still never removed it.
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful story. There are something's that you can never replace. I still have my mums handbag and she died in 1973. Yes I pick it up open it and it still smells of mum x. These are the most precious things x
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautifully written story. I wear my engagement ring all the time but had to remove it for a recent operation as they don't like to tape over rings with stones incase they fall out!!
ReplyDeleteThat is a beautiful story and the ring box is very precious. I come from a long line of divorce so there are no inherited rings in our family. I suppose I never really thought about my Grandma's wedding ring as she hadn't had one since long before I was born. I wonder what it looked like ... ?
ReplyDeleteOh what a lovely ring and story behind it - I like the thought that the jewellers is still there too.
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